Sex should always be a positive, healthy and consensual experience for everyone involved. Remember: sex without consent is sexual assault.
Sexual assault is common on college campuses. In most instances, the two people involved know each other. Victims may even be in a relationship with the person who is taking advantage of them.
It’s not always easy to identify sexual assault within the context of a relationship. When we think about sexual assault, we tend to think about behaviors that are obviously violent or forceful. But sexual assault in a relationship doesn’t always appear this way. Plus, it’s hard to imagine our partner would hurt us.
So what does sexual assault within a relationship look like? Here are some questions to ask yourself to determine whether this might be happening to you or someone you care about.
Has your partner ever…
- Pressured you to engage in sexual acts you weren’t comfortable with?
- Had sex with you when you were unable to voluntarily consent after drinking?
- Made you watch or imitate pornography without your consent?
- Asked repeatedly to have sex even when you’ve told them no?
- Acted annoyed or whiny when you turn down sex?
- Called you selfish or made you feel guilty for not wanting sex?
- Threatened to cheat on you if you refuse sex?
- Become verbally or physically abusive if you don’t want to have sex?
- Refused to use condoms, or blocked access to contraception?
If you answered yes to any of the above questions, you may be seeing signs of an unhealthy or abusive relationship. Keep in mind that sexual assault is prohibited at WSU, and there are many resources available to help if you or someone you know needs them.
Remember, consent must be present every time sexual activity occurs, even in relationships.
You should never feel obligated or pressured to engage in any sexual activity. It’s not your fault if someone hurts you. It’s normal to feel betrayed, hurt, angry and confused.